GIRLS: We Can Do Better


Alright ladies, Ima be real honest here. 

Recently, I talked to a youth pastor friend of mine and what he told me made me super sad. His youth ministry recently had a weekend retreat of over a thousand students and they asked all the guys the same question: As young men trying to keep pure thoughts and a pure mind, what is the one thing that girls do that cause you to stumble? Their answer: LEGGINGS. That’s right girls….leggings!! Leggings as pants. At what point did this become a trend? Leggings can be super cute and add a lot to an outfit, but do we really think that wearing them as pants doesn’t draw attention not only to our backside, but our frontside too?! Let’s get real girls. Guys’ minds are way different than ours. They think about sexual things way more than we do and when they get an image in their minds, it’s hard to erase. So if we just wear a pair of leggings and a t-shirt, our entire backside and curves of our body are pretty much outlined for guys to get a visual of. WE CAN DO BETTER THAN THIS. I believe girls who dress stylishly, but modestly show that they demand respect for themselves. There are ways to wear leggings, shorts, dresses, tank tops, and even bathing suits that are modest and are not presenting our bodies in a way that clearly would cause men to stumble. I will say, however, that men will struggle with this for the rest of mankind. That is just how God wired them. But ladies…let’s do OUR best to help them out! Clearly at this youth retreat the guys were OVER IT. They are tired of girls trying to show off and are looking for girls that would be girlfriend/future wife material. I believe this is a heart matter. If our hearts are striving to love and honor God, we wouldn’t WANT to dress this way. I love this Bible verse:


1 Corinthians 6:19-20

19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.


So ladies, I wanna help y’all out. Here are some ways to wear leggings modestly. And remember, let’s live from the inside out!!












  1. Rcubed · March 8, 2014

    Loved this post. I’ve been wanting to wear leggings with shirts and things because everyone else was doing it, but now I realize…I don’t know what’s inside a guy’s head, and it’s better to be safe than sorry. Thanks so much–definitely gave me more fashion ideas 🙂

  2. janahagan · March 8, 2014

    Often when with my 14yo son, he makes comments about shorts that are too short, too short dresses, and yes, leggings. He wonders why girls have to dress that way. Sad.

  3. Ida Pahus · March 10, 2014

    So true Carmen! You are so inspiring!! Please come with 1girlnation to Denmark, or just Europe soon!

  4. swimc08 · March 12, 2014

    Carmen, thank you for writing about clothing – one of the toughest aspects of a teenage girls life today. And for doing it in accordance with God’s word.

  5. Lisa · October 9, 2014

    i agree that some fashion trends are risqué. But seriously men need to control themselves. There was once a time when an ankle was considered sexy. In some countries women have to cover their entire bodies. It’s time for us to stop excusing men’s sexually predatorial behaviour and start holding them accountable. If “God” meant for us to cover ourselves up we would be born clothed.

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